Getting Your Grove Back: The Power of Confidence
by Amy Blair Lawson MBA, CDFA, RTT®, C.Hyp
Ladies, let’s dive straight into a subject that’s near and dear to our hearts – confidence and its undeniable connection to success. As high-achieving divorced women, we’ve weathered the storm – or in some cases, the tornado – and now it’s time to pull our wings from the wreckage and soar to new heights. Let’s explore how confidence can be your secret weapon on this remarkable journey.
1. Self-Belief Is Your Foundation:
Picture confidence as the bedrock upon which your success is built. If you have children and ever read The Three Little Pigs to them, then you’ll likely see that confidence is the brick from which we build our solid house – a house in which no Big Bad Wolf can breach. No matter the amount of huffing and puffing, when you believe in yourself, you reduce a Big Bad Wolf to a little yapping pup.
2. Confidence Fuels Resilience:
Divorce can be daunting; it can really mess with your head, creating anxiety for your future and depression about the past. While confidence doesn’t stop a Big Bad Wolf from knocking at your door, it equips you with the resilience to bounce back from any setback and bravely face any challenge. Confidence keeps your head cool when you see that wolf (See what I did here? I left out “Big” and “Bad” when I mentioned the wolf – that’s what confidence does for us) through the keyhole and allows you to sleep at night knowing your foundation is brick, your doors are high-carbon steel, and your windows are 75 millimeters of bullet-proof glass. Confidence is your inner cheerleader who shouts, “You got this, girl!” when the going gets tough.
3. It Opens Doors:
Confidence is the master key that unlocks doors to new opportunities. It’s your passport to networking events, job interviews, or pursuing those dreams you once put reluctantly on a shelf. When you exude confidence, others take notice, they feel your power and they are drawn to you like the most powerful magnet in the world. This attention can lead to introductions, job offers, and collaborations you wouldn’t otherwise have. Confidence also fuels your ambition, giving you the courage to seek out new opportunities, whether it be asking for that coveted promotion, applying for your dream job, or taking those dreams off the shelf, dusting them off, and launching your new venture.
4. Risk-Taking Becomes Second Nature:
High-achievers often find themselves on the brink of risk. Confidence turns risk-taking from a heart-pounding leap into an exhilarating adventure; it’s your trusty co-pilot who not only has logged more flight hours than you have – flight hours under combat conditions – but who also blows air under your wings at the first sign of a downdraft.
5. Confidence Begets Success:
Success and confidence have a symbiotic relationship; they are the dynamic duo of the adventure called life. The Batman and Robin of your personal achievements. While confidence is your inner cheerleader, success is the shiny trophy applauding your efforts. When you taste success, it bolsters your confidence further. All achievements, big and small, serve as stepping stones toward greater accomplishments.
6. Networking Magic:
In the world of high-achievers, networking is the secret sauce; it’s not just about who you connect with but how you connect with them. It’s the difference between standing in the corner clutching your glass of liquid courage wishing you were home watching the latest episode of Outlander, and diving into conversations with enthusiasm (pssst… you can stream Outlander when you get home). Confidence is magnetic, it naturally draws people to you, making it easier to strike up conversations, break the ice, and create lasting connections. Confidence also allows you to effectively articulate your ideas and thoughts and engage in meaningful discussions without hesitation. Furthermore, confidence breeds trust. When you believe in yourself, others are more likely to believe in you, too – they are more likely to refer you, collaborate with you, and open doors for you.
7. Leadership and Influence:
Confidence is the cornerstone of effective leadership, with influence being its by-product. Confidence sets the tone, breeding credibility and inspiring trust in your judgment, expertise, and conviction. Confidence enhances your communication skills, allowing you to express your ideas clearly and persuasively; it’s the glue that makes your words stick in people’s minds, amplifying your message, and encouraging others to join your cause or follow your lead.
8. Confidence Breeds Creativity:
Success often demands creativity and innovation; it’s the secret ingredient that turbocharges your creativity, banishing your self-doubt, and propelling you to explore uncharted realms of innovation. It fuels your willingness to experiment with new ideas, mix and match concepts, and push boundaries; it helps you step outside of your comfort zone, increasing the likelihood of sparking truly innovative solutions. Confidence also enhances your creative expression, empowering you to share your ideas with conviction and enthusiasm, garnering the support necessary to bring your ideas to fruition. In short, confidence transforms your creative potential into creative reality.
9. Personal Growth and Empowerment:
Confidence isn’t just about outward success; it’s about personal growth and empowerment. It’s about acknowledging your worth and embracing your journey while dealing with whatever sh*t threatens to hold you back. High-achieving divorced women who nurture their confidence often find themselves on a path of self-discovery and empowerment; they dream big, overcome obstacles, and become the best version of themselves.
10. Happiness and Fulfillment:
Confidence is the magic elixir that infuses happiness and fulfillment into your life. It turns ordinary days into extraordinary ones. Because it enhances self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and your abilities, creating a sense of inner contentment. Because confidence drives you to pursue your passions and dreams, you’re more likely to take risks, explore new horizons, and set audacious goals. You enjoy the thrill of the journey AND you celebrate planting your flag on your newly conquered hill. Confident people typically have better relationships as confidence allows you to engage authentically, effectively express your needs, and set healthy boundaries. Most importantly, it empowers you to be the architect of your own happiness.
In conclusion, my dear high-achieving divorced friends, confidence is your steadfast companion on the road to success. It’s the fuel that powers your journey, the wind beneath your wings. Embrace it, nurture it, and watch as it propels you to heights you once thought unattainable. Remember, you are a force of nature and a force for good in this world, and with confidence as your ally, there’s no limit to what you can achieve. So, stand tall, walk with grace, and let your confidence lead the way. Success is yours for the taking.
Wishing you peace & plenty of confidence!
